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Unmet Expectations


Philippians 4:19 - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.

Every morning when I rise I try to make a habit of acknowledging the Lord and thanking Him for yet another 24 hours of life. I yearn to involve Him in every aspect of my day to make an impact for Him wherever He leads.


Today began like every other day; however, this morning God spoke to me in a still small voice saying, "You've been living your whole life expecting your husband to please you and passionately love you but it's me who you should be looking to. I don't disappoint." Now ladies, I know that God wasn't telling me to neglect my husband, that is not biblical. What He was saying was to stop placing expectations on my husband that only God can fulfill. Because I have an intimate relationship with Jesus, He has promised to meet all of my needs and He was reminding me of His faithfulness and devotion.


My husband is very dear to my heart but He is; however, definitely human. NEWS ALERT, he is not perfect and we are complete opposites. He is always cold, I'm always hot. He loves fruit, I do not. He loves the outdoors and I love the indoors. . . So you see, friction would be inevitable except for the fact that we have a covenant relationship with the Lord and seek to live for Him.


I have lived for years not having expectations for others because it usually leads to disappointment but God was showing me that I still had unreasonable expectations for my husband. I had been depending way too much on my husband to please me. After 37 years of marriage this was an eye opener. I have an amazing husband who is faithful, loving and kind but God was telling me that He, Himself, needed to be the one to satisfy and adore me. He needed to be the one that I lean on. He needed to be the one that I depended on. He needed to be the one that I turned to at ALL times.


Don't get me wrong, we have a wonderful marriage and my husband is my very best friend, but perhaps it's time that I take the pressure off of him to please me and shower me with abandoning love and rest in the arms of my Lord who will never disappoint. He will never leave me or forsake me and He loves me with an everlasting love that not one person can replicate.


Are you deflated from unmet expectations or just yearning for your husband's all consuming love? Could God be calling you to rest in His arms and release your husband and others from the high expectations of pleasing you?

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Dear Lord,


Please forgive me for the pressure I put on others to live up to my expectations and help me to enjoy people and love them where they are at. Release me from having to be the center of attention and give me a true servant's heart that has no bounds. As I walk through the day help me to be so caught up in you that I can set myself aside and allow you to work through me if you desire. May the fragrance of the knowledge of you permeate through every part of my being so that people take notice and are curious as to what I'm all about. And when they inquire about the joy and the peace that I have, please speak through me, Lord, the words that You desire to get their attention. You are the only One High God who reigns forevermore. May Your name always be on the tip of my tongue so that I can sing of Your praises in the midst of all that You are doing in me.


In Jesus Name,


Amen


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